Showing posts with label Mining Your Memories. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Mining Your Memories. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

2013 CALENDAR OF EVENTS AND BLOG POST SERIES


2013

This is a list of the blog post series and google+ Journaling and Storykeeping community events for all of 2013, as well as for each month of 2013:

* 2013 Storykeeper Odyssey: Writing Our Memories
* January 30-Days of the Memory Launch Pad (Lists)
* February 30-Days of Years 
* March 30-Days of Your Strongest Memories
* April 30-Days of A Healing Balm for Your Past
* May 30-Days of Focusing on Your Marriage
* June 30-Days of Focusing on Your Parents 
* July 30-Days of Objects
* August 30-Days of Focusing on Your Grandparents
* September 30-Days of Family and Friends
* October 30-Days of Places
* November 30-Days of Dreams and Goals
* December 30-Days of Future Memories and Planning

The goal of each month is to get all of our memories on the page and listed in our journals in 2013 so we can leave a legacy that's remembered in 2013 and beyond. 

Friday, December 21, 2012

Christmas Memories: A Journaling Prompt and Exercise



Do you like Christmas?

What are your memories of Christmas?

What were your most memorable Christmases--for the good or bad?

What are your favorite Christmas memories?

What are your least favorite Christmas memories?

What were your favorite gifts you have given people?

What have been your favorite gifts received?

What Christmas traditions do you have?

-- Stacy Duplease
Journalkeeper & Author

Another Memory Snapshot or Mining Your Memories Chart Journaling Exercise or Prompt



Here is another fun way to capture your memories on the page: 

1 Make a list of 5 columns at the top of the page. Label the columns:
* Year
* Object
* Person
* Place
* Favorite

2 Then, do a list of 5, 10, 15, 20, or 25--where you list that number of each in that column. So, for instance, 5 different years in your life. Each time you list creates a square. So, we would have a chart of 25 or 125 different squares when we are finished--depending on how many you listed under each column. 

3 This chart now gives you endless prompts to use to mine for your memories in your mind and remembrance. Use one of the squares and do a Stream of Consciousness journaling where you write whatever comes to mind, and as fast as you can, and without stopping for ten minutes. Then, do 2. Then, do 3. Then, do 4. Then, do 5. Or, mix it up and do 1, 5, 4, 2, 3--for example. 

For example, if I decide to do 3, I could do this: 1980, Mom, Home. I, then, am to write about a memory about all three squares from my chart. 

This will give you endless possibilities. 

I also recommend doing a new chart at least once a month so this exercise doesn't get too boring. 

You can also do the chart per your age. Let's say I was 40. I could write 40 items in each column and create 200 squares. 

This is an exercise or prompt to really have fun with. You never know what might come to mind. 

~ Stacy Duplease

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Journaling Retreat: Stirring Up the Memories

Journaling Retreat

Well, we are about halfway through our second day of our journaling retreat. I just thought I would check in with you.

JOURNALING EXERCISE AND PROMPT:
* So, how are you really? 
* How has today's journaling retreat been for you?
* How is it for you to remember the memories--the good, the bad, the ugly, and the indifferent? 
* Has stirring up the memories been a good or tough thing? 
* What are your favorite memories that you've listed?
* What are the most powerful memories you've listed?
* What are the most life-changing memories you've listed?
* What has surprised you?
* What memory snapshots do you want to do? 
* What have you learned through writing your memory list?
* Is there anything you want to share?
* What do you want to write more about? (Which memories?)

WHAT NOW?
So, what should we do now that we are almost halfway through our day? 
* Keep doing whatever journaling prompt or style you want to associated with this memory list retreat. 
* Do some memory snapshots.
* Write a paragraph of journaling of 7 different memories.
* Write 1-page for 1 memory.
* Etc. Etc. Etc.: Do whatever you want to do. 

~ Stacy Duplease

Journaling Retreat: The Day After


Journaling Retreat

Why don't we grab our favorite beverage and some food, if we haven't done that already? Then, while we are at it, we should probably grab our journals so we can start our day of journaling.

In this case, we are on Day 2 of our Journaling Retreat. However, this blog post can be used in the future for the day after a journaling retreat. It was a retreat in which our goal is to get as many memories down on the page from our lives as possible: the good, the bad, the ugly, and the indifferent--all of them. Today, we will spend another day doing much the same. However, there will be a few differences.

Therefore, whether you have a 1-day journaling retreat or a 14 day one, this blog post will provide more information for having a journaling retreat of your own--or joining me on my planned journaling retreats. 

JOURNALING EXERCISE OR PROMPT:
* So, how did your journaling retreat go yesterday? What did you think about it?
* Did it go as well as you hoped--or not so well?
* How many pages of journaling did you get done? (But, remember  it's about quality--not quantity. I am asking this question merely as a point of reference.)

YESTERDAY
I had several thoughts yesterday as I made my memory list:
1 "Wow! I forgot that."

2 "That reminds me."
When I would write or re-read my memories, they would remind me of other memories.)

3 "What perfect timing before Christmas."
I get sentimental at Christmastime very year. this year is no exception. It was a wonderful time to focus on memories. It gave me a big warm fuzzy on the inside for the most part. (Note to self: Do this every year just before Christmas. It was worthwhile.)

3 "I'm stuck."
I would get stuck. I would get to the point I didn't know what to do, think, or write next.

4 "I'm tired." 
By the end of the day I was exhausted. I could not write another word until I took a break.

Yesterday went better, and worse, than I imagined at the start of the day. I do not know about all of you. Also, I had never done such an intense day of memory listing. Never. Not like that. The truth is I would do it all again--and will today. But, I learned a few things I will do differently today, which I will share with you in a moment.

MY STORYKEEPER ODYSSEY OF 2013
My goal for 2013 is to get all of my memories down on the page and in my journal. I also want to write about each of those memories and focus on writing a great deal on a few of them. I want to look back at these memories from today's eyes and see where I have come, where I am, where I am headed, and where I want to go from here. 

I want to look at how my experiences, memories, and stories have shaped who I am today. I also want to make sure I write the stories of others' in my lives as well--since their stories have undoubtedly shaped mine. 

TODAY'S JOURNALING RETREAT
Our goal of this 2-day journaling retreat is to get as many memories listed from our lives as possible in our journals. We want to try to write enough of a description that we can look back it a year from now and know what memory we referred to as we listed our memories. 

Make sure to get as many memories down on the page as possible, using the prompts described in this blog post:

I also recommend doing as many of the prompts as possible, and a few of your own, so you don't get too tired, too bored, or get to the point you are tried and need a break. Keep it fresh.

If you do get stuck, pick one of the memories you have listed and write more about it. In fact, you might want to do a Memory Snapshot of the memory. 

MEMORY SNAPSHOT JOURNALING: 
It's okay to do steps 1-5 with just one memory. You can also just do #1-2 for one memory or #1-5. However, just remember how the more you do, the more you'll get out of this exercise. What you want to do exactly is up to you. 

~ 1 List in your journal at least 5 memories you have or haven't mentioned previously. Give each of the 5 memories a memory title, date (or at least approximate season or month as well as year), how old you were, a paragraph description, and how it's shaped your life.

~ 2 Choose 3 of the memories and write about a page about each. (Do one paragraph or 10 pages--depending on your time and your drive that day). List each of the 6 senses of: discernment/intuition, smell, sound, taste, touch, and sight regarding each memory. Also, answer who, what, where, when, why, how, and what-if questions in regards to that memory. (You may also choose to do a SOC about them as well.)

~ 3 Choose 2 of the memories which stand out to you the most and take 3-7 snapshots/photos of the memory with your imaginary camera. If the memory is crystal clear and you remember lots of detail, make it 7 snapshots. If it's foggy, make it 3. If it's in-between, you decide how many snapshots. Then, describe each in your journal. This will add about a paragraph per snapshot per memory.

~ 4 Take 1 snapshot from each memory and write it from the perspective of a stranger who's looking into the moment. Remember, the stranger doesn't know any of the people or events in the snapshot until the stranger sees this snapshot for the first time. Be descriptive.

~ 5 Plan on what future memories you might want to do this with later. 

IT'S THAT TIME
Shall we get started on our journaling retreat today? I will write more blog posts periodically to help us along. 

~ Stacy Duplease

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Journaling Retreat: Checking In and Journaling Exercise


Journaling Retreat

We are over halfway through the day and should have quite the list of memories so far. 

JOURNALING EXERCISE:
* So, how is your memory list coming? Is it going better or worse than you imagined?
* How long is your list?
* What memories have surprised you?
* What have you forgotten and remembered?
* How have you compiled the list so far? What has worked and hasn't worked for you?
* Pick three memories to write a paragraph more about at this time.
* What memories have you made at different restaurants? List them.
* What foods and recipes remind you of memories? List the memories. 

TIPS
Have you tried to re-read your list as you go--to see if any other memories sre stirred up and remembered? 
Have you talked with someone else about your memories and see if they could help you jog your memories? 

MY PROGRESS
I have 20 pages so far of my list  But, I've been emailing back and forth with my mom who has reminded me of some memories and I have done the same with her.  Then, when I see her emails, it reminds me of something else. This has been helpful.

But, now I am getting sleepy and have slowed down with my list  So, I am going to try to switch it up for a bit and think of all my favorites--of anything and see what memories I can think of associated with each.

Journaling Retreat: How is your memory list coming along?

How is your memory list coming? 

So far, I have 10 pages total. But, I am putting an extra blank line between each item on my list to break it up so the list doesn't all run together for me. 

I am making note of this so we can note our progress--not to brag or make us feel guilty. It's meant to inspire us to create a longer list faster instead. 

Let's see how many we can list now! 

Stacy Duplease
Journalkeeper & Author
The Remembering Your Present Journal Keeping Series
dba Remembering Your Present, LLC & Storykeeper 2121

Journaling Retreat Suggestion: Memory List Making with a Loved One or Friend

Get someone else to help list memories with you. And, write them down. 

Mom and I are doing this today--and it's awesome to share this together--and what a perfect time of year to do so. 

How we are doing our memories lists is through her listing memories to me in an email and sending it to me--and me doing the same. When we see one another's memories together, it sparks more for us to list. We then email another list. 

As we send email lists  I am cutting and pasting into a Word document for my total list of all my memories. 

We are also creating a new memory doing this with one another. 

This might be something to do as a family at Christmas, by the way. 

Stacy Duplease
Journalkeeper & Author
The Remembering Your Present Journal Keeping Series
dba Remembering Your Present, LLC & Storykeeper 2121

The Storykeeper Odyssey Journaling Retreat


Journaling Retreat

This Journaling Retreat is the start of my 2013 Journaling Project: 
My Storykeeper Odyssey in 2013

This journaling retreat and next year for you can mean starting to get your entire life on the page. It's the start of leaving a legacy. It's the Introduction to your life. It will also be a good preparation if you want to write your memoirs one day. Your journaling entries are the first step. 

THE GOAL OF THIS JOURNALING RETREAT
The goal of the journaling retreat of 20-21 December is to get as many memories listed on the pages of our journals as possible. It can be in literal lists or however you want to do it. You can do a mind map, list, paragraph form, written on the page with no punctuation, other than bullet points or stars to set them off. You can number them or not. You can make each a different ink color. You can do each in a different font. Do whatever strikes your fancy and have fun with it. 

The goal is to get every single memory listed on the page that we can. We want to be thorough. If we take the next two days to do so, we have the potential of getting hundreds of memories listed.

We will not write more than a sentence to let us know enough to recall the memory when we return to the list later. For example:

My Golden Retriever Sunny, the log over the fence, when I was about 7 or 8. 

Or:
Visiting Mom at the hospital after her hernia operation. How old was I? Five? Ask Mom or Dad to verify.

You see, I am giving just enough information that if I do not return to the list for a year, I can still retrieve the memory and write more completely about it. This is the goal. 

WHY GET ALL OF OUR MEMORIES ON THE PAGE IN OUR JOURNALS?
The 14th of December 2012 was a good reminder to us all when there was the Shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary school. We, or our loved ones, could die tomorrow. This is a hard fact, but nevertheless is quite true. Needless to say, don't we want to write all of our stories, and our stories with them, while we still can? There is no time like the present.

Also, I come from a family with dementia  Do I need to say anything more? One day, I will forget my memories... Journaling will preserve them.

And, I know someone who suffered from amnesia and forgot several years in their life. They asked their spouse to be their memory and their spouse to be their memory.

Or, what about the parent who gets run over by a bus? What would their children have to remember them by? Or, what about a sickness or a stroke? 

Or, what about for your future or unborn child? 

Or, what about wanting to remember your life--because you are proud of every year you've lived and count yourself blessed?

Or, what about wanting to remember what God has done in your life? 

These are some of the reasons why we should get it all down on the page.

WHERE DO WE START?
I am going to list some suggestions below. Do them in whatever order you want, in whatever way you want. Do each of the below as often as necessary or as you want. Just remember the goal: Get as many memories listed in your journal as possible.
* Do a SOC (Stream of Consciousness)--where you write down whatever comes to mind, the moment it comes to mind, as fast as you can. 
* List the decades of your life and go through each decade and list as many memories as you can.
* List your most powerful memories.
* List your favorite memories.
* List the life challenges you've had.
* List the successes you've had.
* List when you've come up short.
* List all the places you've lived and memories associated with each.
* List all the jobs you've had and the memories associated with each.
* Do a mind-map.
* List all the people in your life and the memories associated with each.
* Go to each room in your house. List as many objects as you can see and write the memories associated with each.
* Think of what each home you've lived in looks like and the objects found there. List the memories associated with each.
* Where have you traveled? List the memories associated with each. 
* What are your favorite songs of all-time. List them and write the memories associated with each.
* TV shows? List them and write the memories associated with each.
* Movies? List them and write the memories associated with each.
* Books? List them and write the memories associated with each.
* Authors? List them and write the memories associated with each.
* Take out old photos. Write the memories associated with each.
* What photographs are missing or were never taken? List them and write the memories associated with each.
* When did you go... to the zoo? to the museum? to other touristy, cultural places  List them and write the memories associated with each.
* List all of your pets and write the memories associated with each.
* Anything else that comes to mind. Etc. Etc. Etc. 

~ Stacy Duplease

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Personal Journaling, Memory Making, and Beagle Drama




PERSONAL JOURNALING
I figured you might like to see a few of my personal journal entries from time to time, so you can see what a nutty journalkeeper of about 30 years does in her journal. I hope it helps inspire you, teach you, encourage you, and comfort you.

MEMORY MAKING
I believe that we should make every day memorable. If we do not, then it is a day wasted. And, that's a tragedy.

Journaling helps this to happen, by the way.

The memory making includes experiences, thoughts, ideas, dreams, goal-setting and accomplishing goals, hopes, challenges, etc.

Sometimes, memory making happens accidentally. Sometimes  it happens and we don't expect it. Sometimes, we have to be intentional about it. However, I believe each and every day, we should live intentionally to make a memory.

Well... Yesterday and today I had two occasions when memories were thrown upon me--thanks to Zack Beagle.

BEAGLE DRAMA
Last night--and then again this morning (!!!) brought Beagle drama in my life. I think he lost three lives in the process: Two by accident and one by me.

 First of all, you need to know that on 27 January, Zack Beagle turns 13 years old. He still acts like he has a couple of years left in him, too. He doesn't look like almost 13 years old--other than his bald face (white). There are times he shows his age: like when he stands up after sleeping for an hour or two or 20 (my husband and I can sure relate). Then, there are other times he acts like a pup--like when Sinan Maine Coon Cat and he play chase through the house. 

There is something else you need to know. Beagle's are accidental troublemakers. Their noses tend to get them into trouble. Their noses have the strongest sense of smell than most other dog breeds. And, to prove it, watch them. Most of the time, if they are awake and not sleeping, their noses are on the ground, and they are smelling. 

When they get on the trail of a smell  they tend to chew things if you leave food items down where they can find it--or they will wander from you if you take your eyes off of them for a heartbeat. Consequently, they runaway without intending. The latter happened to me last night. 

I put Zack outside to do what dogs do outside in back (which is partly open) and I went to wind up our cuckoo clock as I spoke to my husband as he drove home from his day at work. It took 60 seconds or so. Then, I went back to let Zack inside. 

Now, you need to know that if Zack wanders, he never goes far--unless he takes off running, but that is rare. He has never made it anywhere but to the neighbor's house (with me anyway).

Let me set the record straight. He goes outside three to four times a day. He has wandered in the last year and a half, less than the fingers on one of my hands. He usually only makes it to where the fence is missing--and we are able to yell at him to come back. But, five times, he made it out that area and headed to the neighbor's--to sniff. But, we caught him before he even made it there. We keep a good eye on him.

But, the one thing I needed to remember is that it is winter. If he gets cold, he walks faster and will literally run--in order to stay warm or get warm.  Taking more than 30 seconds (it was less than a minute, though) of my eyes off the dog when it was cold was wrong. 

He was gone! I yelled out for him. Nothing. No beagle. And I was barefoot--and it was chilly outside. So, I couldn't go running outside to get him. I went charging through the house to grab my shoes, but no jacket--as I told my husband I had to let him go so I could find the dog.

I tore out front door and looked around as I called out to him. No Zack. He wasn't anywhere in sight. 

We live along a busy street--and it was rush hour! So, you can imagine what went on in my mind. He would be hit by a car. He would be hurt or killed. 

Which way? Right or left? My husband told me to go left before we got off the phone and that's what I did. Nothing. I walked through several backyards and yelled for the dog--as I felt my heart pound against my chest. I could hear my heartbeat as well as feel it. 

I also kicked myself for taking any chances at all and not having a rope to put him on because of his nose. "Shame on me," I scolded myself. "If anything happens to him..."

"ZACK! Zacchaeus!" Walk, look all over, yell again, look toward the street--and all the cars(!!!).

I can't find him. I call husband. Frantic. "I can't find him." And,  "Hurry home." And, "Make sure to look for a beagle as you come home." 

My husband asked me what I was wearing. "Shoes that are meant for inside only and no jacket."

"Do you have flashlights?"

"No."

"Go inside, Stacy, and get flashlights, real shoes, and a warm coat."

Me: "Okay. Come with me." I scanned the area for the dog as I headed back to home. I got inside and ran all around trying to grab shoes upstairs, flashlights in living room and study, and coat by front door. I couldn't get my jacket on! I told my husband. 

"Put the phone down."

"'Kay." Sure enough, that made it easier than holding cell and trying to put the coat on. "Got it. Now, let me let you go."

I went outside and looked all around. Nothing. No Zack Beagle. 

I use the flashlight as I walk further into the front yard. It was a good thing I had it--for it was dark now. Nothing. 

I call out, "Zack!" Nothing.

I start kicking myself again, telling myself I was the worst dog owner ever. (Dramatic.)

I determined to go left again--since I can see a great deal to my right and didn't see him. I run into the neighbor to our right and ask him if he had seen beagle. He said he would keep his eye out for the little fellow. 

I went left (wondering if that was a mistake and should really go right) --and looked all over -and went even further than before--searching--looking all over--with eyes and flashlight.

NOTHING!

I keep searching. Nothing. I decide to turn around and head toward house. I call my husband--in hysteria. I ask him where he was. He was FAR from home--still Antone 12 minutes or so before he made it home. That didn't sit well with me. He tells me to calm down. I knew he was right. Being hysterical surely wouldn't help find Zack.

"Hurry! Now, I'm going to let you go so I can look for him," I tell my husband.

I search with eyes and flashlight on both sides of the street. Nothing.

I get in front of our house. Nothing.

I go right. Nothing.

I call out and keep looking with eyes and flashlight--heart pounding more and more.

Then, movement caught my eye in front of one of the houses. "BEAGLE!" I yell out as he had his nose to the ground, of course. When he heard my voice, his nose came off the ground, ears in air, and I holler, "Come here, Zack," as I start heading to him. 

Zack moved faster than a mosey as he headed toward me. Usually he takes his own sweet time, but he didn't now. Did he know he was lost? Or did he sense my emotions? That was what I wanted to know.

We reached each other  He got a million pets on his head and a few kisses on his nose as I pick up the 30 pound dog and carry him home. 

Do I scold him or do I let it go? I asked myself and decided to let it go and I praised God, aloud, for finding the dog--and he was okay. Thank God.

When we reached our driveway, I put the dog on the ground and watch to see if he would follow me. He did. So, I called my husband to let him know.  I also told hubby that we are getting rope out of garage and will attach the leash to it and Zack will have to do what dogs do--while he is tethered from here on out. My husband says, "I will not allow you to go through that again  I will look for it as I get out of my car in the garage."

What my hubby said meant a great deal--about how he wouldn't let me go through that again. I know he also meant that he wouldn't' take the chance with Zack's life again either. (Their darn noses!)

When Zack and I went outside, I was off the phone, and I sat on the floor and hugged Zack and talked with him about my experience and asked him how his was. He snuggled up with me. I thank God again and again. Even the cat got in on the action. I think he somehow knew what happened. He looked relieved when he saw Zack as well.

Thank God Zack is home and safe!

But, he lost two of his many lives (he has a brother that's a cat, so why couldn't he have multiple lives, too?). One was lost on his own accord and one in which I wanted to take because of his nose (not literally  of course. Just being funny.)

MORE ZACK DRAMA: ROUND TWO
Zack sleeps a lot. He has since he was a puppy. He is an expert sleeper. It's what he's really good at, along with finding food, of course (his nose!). However, there are times he plays with the cat. It's usually in the morning and sometimes just before bed. 

I got up early to workout on the treadmill. (Do you sense where this is going?)

I was doing my thing when the beagle runs into the workout room. I know that face and that sound. He runs like that if cat is chasing him. And, he runs to me to protect him at times (which I tell him to get the kitty). Today was one of those times. 

I heard him JUMP onto the treadmill in back of me! My heart stops. I hit STOP on the treadmill and turn around to see Zack fall over to his side and get thrown off the treadmill. It sounds a lot worse than what it was, though. He landed on the comfy carpet with nice pad and jumped right up like nothing happened. 

He had never tried that stunt before. I doubt he will try it again. 

I was far more of a mess about it than he was. I stopped my workout, determined to try for a longer one tomorrow, and give him all sorts of love--as I checked him over to see if he was hurt. He was just fine. His pride was hurt more than anything, but was quickly reversed when he got tons of attention. 

Let me tell you how I was praising and thanking God again for protecting the little fellow! Poor old man. (Laughing--now.)

That was the third life he had lost in the last 14 hours.

Two memorable dramas I will never forget. After all, I just journaled about them here, didn't I? 

Now, I hope there will not be any more Beagle drama in a long. long time. Thanks to the rope we set up last night, that diminishes the chances. Now, somehow, he needs to stay off the treadmill. 

Stacy Duplease
Journalkeeper & Author
The Remembering Your Present Journal Keeping Series
dba Remembering Your Present, LLC & Storykeeper 2121